Saturday, November 22, 2014

My Comments at Avacar Bluestar's Memorial This Evening

Avacar's memorial is packed tonight, at last count 100 people were on the sim and more trying to come in. Although the service is still underway, I want to share the speech I was invited to make at the event for my friend Avacar.

What a sad and terrible week it has been. Avacar, who was so loved by so many of us, and most of all by his partner Rico, has left us. He meant so much to so many – as a close friend, as a leader of our community in Second Life, as someone who started many new residents in our confusing virtual world, and as just an incredibly kind and wonderful person who we were fortunate enough to know.

I was angry and in disbelief when I heard the news last Saturday. My anger has lasted the entire week. How come I cannot speak to Avacar anymore?  Why is this?  How can this be? How can my friend Avacar leave life this way? It was so sudden. One day he was here, and the next day he was gone. 

We do not know why the creator or force of the universe, or simply destiny itself, took Avacar away from us, but we do know how lucky we all are that Avacar came into our lives.  And it is not up to us to question any master plan of the universe for we cannot comprehend or really know what lies ahead.

But I do know this. The wonderful person that was Avacar Bluestar needs to be remembered. It has to be this way.I have been thinking about a permanent memorial for Avacar in Second Life. Perhaps we can build a gorgeous garden or a musical concert series to remember him by. Maybe we can have an annual event to raise funds in his honor for the American Heart Foundation. I have been thinking about doing all sorts of things.

But then it hit me. All these things do not do justice for how Avacar has changed us all as individuals, and has made Second Life a much better place for everyone.

A bit of Avacar lies within us. He made us better individuals by treating everyone with kindness and respect. He showed us how to treat others. And I think the best memorial to Avacar would be to continue his actions in Second Life.

Let me give some examples:

The next time you help a friend in need in Second Life even though you have three things to do that have to get done in the next 10 minutes-
Remember, Avacar is with you and here in Second Life.

The next time you selflessly take the time to help a newbie who cannot even begin to figure out how to survive in Second Life-
Avacar is still with us.  He did this. 

If you are a club owner, and some passionate DJ needs a forum to develop his or her dream, even though they have no following yet on their own, and you are kind enough to help –
Avacar did this. He will still be us in Second Life.

The next time you spend a great deal of your own funds on an event in Second Life, or a charity, or simply build a sim that others love without any hope of getting your investment back-
This is what Avacar did. He taught us that money was not the most important thing. He will still be us in Second Life.

The next time you know a friend is down, and you spend time cheering them up, at the expense of not putting your own needs first, this is what Avacar did-
Avacar is still here in Second Life.

The next time you offer an artist a gorgeous gallery space so other may appreciate their work, at no cost to anyone but yourself, simply because it’s a good thing to do-
Avacar is still here in Second Life.

Avacar led his life by the Golden Rule. He treated others as he wished to be treated, and there were never any exceptions. And if each of us remember him by following his example, he will always be part of us, and part of our Second Life Community.

Thank you for listening, 

Ryce Skytower (Eddi Haskell)

Avacar Bluestar
We Will Always Remember You


  1. Beautiful words for a very special and wonderful person. I will miss Avacar, but see all the things he did for a lot of wonderful people who are my family and friends. Peace to you Avacar, know that we will cherish all you did and have others still doing in your name now and in the future.

    1. Thank you very much Bjorn, and we will ever forget the great person who was Avacar.


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