SLGayEvents.com is a great place to find out just about everything on the LGBT scene in Second Life. Although I display the link to this web site prominently on my home page, I know that many of you who subscribe to this blog through a reader may have not heard of it.
Chaz Longstaff and Kip Ashbourne, the owners of Blue Balls, have put this site together as a service to the community, and have done a great job with it. In addition to gay events, there are listings for DJ's, places to live, clubs, and other attractions. Please check this site out, and make sure to register to publish your own listings.
You can find the Blue Balls online store here: https://marketplace.secondlife.com/stores/6452